Take another look: How to rekindle the passion you once had
femaleMake everything a habit. The more often we experience something, the less we react to it. That's the way we were built. Relationships, jobs, songs, etc. that were once exciting become unremarkable over time. Those of us who once felt the need for change now shrug our shoulders and move on. Our brains stop responding to things that don't change.
in Rewatch: The Power of Recognizing What Was Always ThereTali Sharot and Cass Sunstein ask what, if at all, is possible? Rude? What if you could once again appreciate the things you now take for granted? How can we bring back the love we once had? How do we become passionate again about changing ourselves or the situations we currently accept as normal?
Habituation works for us and against us. We need to make some things a habit, but we don't have to make everything a habit.
Building habits into good things will help you move forward and improve. If you haven't experienced habituation, you'll probably settle for less.
all delicate balance You have to hit it here. Habituation can make us dissatisfied, bored, anxious, and greedy. But without habituation (and, dare I say it, boredom, anxiety and greed), we would have remained cave dwellers.
You become accustomed to things like fancy cars and big screen TVs, but you don't become habituated to the joy of learning because learning by definition is change. People cannot make change a habit.
Relationships need time together and common experiences to grow stronger, but they also need independence to keep the spark alive. As the saying goes, too much familiarity breeds contempt. (Mark Twain added that familiarity breeds contempt.and children.)
We need some stability and sameness—some predictability—in our lives, but without change, there is less learning, less growth, and less meaning. But we tend to stick to the old, familiar status quo when we should be mixing it up, “even when it is possible and better to try something different.” Diversity will increase the goodness in our lives and spark creativity. To maximize happiness, we must “cut off the good and swallow the bad whole.”
Diversity will increase the goodness in our lives and spark creativity. To maximize happiness, we must “cut off the good and swallow the bad whole.”
According to research “on average, change the situation you are thinking about changing and you will be happier. The fact that you are considering a change means that your current situation is not ideal.” This doesn't always mean leaving the situation. Sometimes that means putting in more effort to solve a problem. Simply put, “People don't make as much change as they need to..”
When bad things happen to us, habituation plays an important role in our recovery, or resilience. rumination It hinders your ability to form habits when needed. Processing negative events and continuing to dwell on them does not serve us. We need to turn our attention elsewhere.
Rumination is a typical symptom of individuals suffering from depression. Many psychologists believe that this causes depression. In other words, the inability to let go of intrusive thoughts about failure, heartache, and minor disappointments leads to depression.
As the COVID-19 pandemic began to slow, surprisingly many people felt anxious rather than happy.
People who previously could not imagine spending so much time at home because they were used to working in the office can now hardly imagine working in the office, partly because they have become accustomed to working from home.
As being confined at home becomes a habit, “activities that seemed easy before, such as waking up every morning, putting on comfortable training clothes and changing into a dark blue suit, now cause stress. We've had months to get used to 'pandemic life' and adjust to routines and expectations. As a result, the prospect of change once again filled people with fear. Change is difficult because it makes us feel like we are losing control. This is true even when change seems desirable.”
For change we must Rude To maintain the status quo. “seems likethat failure Making it a habit for many people is actually related to innovative thinking.” You can develop creative thinking skills by inducing small changes in your daily life and environment.
The authors examine how habituation affects our morality and values, gullibility, social change, and risk taking. We all experience this:
risk habituation, the tendency to perceive that the risk of an action becomes less and less the more one participates, even if the actual threat is the same. You find yourself taking bigger and bigger risks with less fear.
To grow, you must face fear, that is, risk, and become comfortable with it. We must continue to confront the sources of our fear.
If we don't make risk a habit, we can all become an anxious bunch paralyzed by fear. This is where habituation comes in handy. If you intentionally expose yourself to what scares you, your fears will slowly subside and you will find the courage to expand your world.
Sometimes it's worth underestimating our risks as entrepreneurs continually strive to move boundaries and evolve. So, in the words of the great rock climber Alex Honnold, ‘Goals that seem completely strange end up falling into the realm of the possible. '”
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