Is your size negatively affecting your self-esteem?
Many men invest a lot of stock in their members. If you've ever seen spam emails or ads from porn streaming sites before, you've probably guessed that a lot of men wish their dicks were bigger. Strange as it may seem, the little guy has a huge impact on a man's self-image.
The first time I started to realize my own size was when I slept with another man for the first time. I'd never really thought about whether I was “big” or not, but after seeing other men in action, I started to think that penis size might matter to some extent.
After all, we live in a “bigger is better” world. Whether you're upgrading your fast food meal or wanting a bigger TV, there's an obsession with scale in modern culture. But is that healthy? Knowing that realistically there is little you can do to affect your size, wouldn't it make more sense to focus on loving the dick you have?
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Plus, how much does penis size affect your partner's pleasure? Research suggests that this may not be a huge factor, especially for heterosexual men or men who primarily sleep with women, as they are more likely to climax from clitoral stimulation than penetration.
But no matter who you want to sleep with, you may still feel insecure about your genitals, and it's a topic that too many men secretly feel negative about. As an investigative journalist, I decided to ask men I know when their little friend has ever made them feel self-conscious.
As we spoke to the 14 men below, a pattern began to emerge. Comparison is the root of all evil. So what do men think about their penis size? Read on to find out.
“The first time I realized how big I was was when I started using the locker room in middle school. I always thought, 'How am I measuring up?'” — Mike
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“When I first met a girl, she said, ‘Wow, you’re bigger than my ex!’ And that’s when I thought, ‘Okay, I guess penis size does matter.’” — Christopher
“I knew I looked pretty the first time I got dressed in the locker room after gym class. Oh well, I got lucky. My friend was like, ‘Fuck you, buddy.’ It makes me feel better, but at the same time I don’t think about it very often.” —Joshua
“The first time I had sex with my girlfriend, she kept asking me, ‘That’s it?’ And then I knew I would probably never reach that level (haha). Needless to say, she dumped me after a few weeks. Still, I accept it with confidence. Not everyone needs a big dick.” —Jason
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“I try not to look at porn anymore. Because those people are like gods and I am mortal. But seriously, I think that as great as porn is, it increases anxiety.” — Rob
“When I first saw another cock in person, I thought, ‘Hmm, yeah, this is awesome.’ Being gay, it seems like everyone wants to talk about the size of their penis.” – Ellie
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“I never notice another man’s penis or size. I’m kind of stuck with what I have.” — Edward
“I remember watching HBO a few hours later and seeing a guy’s soft penis and immediately comparing it to my own. Did you really… feel like it wasn't enough? I think that makes perfect sense. “I don’t know, but it was the first time I thought it could be important.” — Aaron
“I think I first became interested in the size of my penis when I overheard some girls at school talking about their boyfriends. [penises] And I thought, ‘I really hope they think mine is okay.’” — Nicholas
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“I remember being in a group sex situation and feeling really self-conscious about myself. It really shouldn't be, but it's like comparing myself to other people is ingrained in me, and sex is a very big part of our culture. It was definitely disappointing.” — Miles
“Porn. Watching porn made me realize that dick size matters. I knew I could never be 12 inches, but I figured out that most girls don’t want that anyway, and that felt okay.” – Noah
“Well, I guess I’ve always figured that’s important, but I’m sure it’ll be fine as long as the proportions are good. We need to stop investing too much stock in how we measure things. Pardon the pun.” – Leo
“I think I realized I was bigger than other men when the woman I was dating at the time couldn’t handle it. And then it happened again, and again. I think it’s more average than having a big penis any day of the week.” — Kevin
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“I think the first time I noticed the size of my penis compared to other men was when I was playing around with my friends in middle school. It wasn't gay or anything. We fooled around together while watching porn. “I’ll take a peek at my friends to see who’s bigger.” — Curtis
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