Enjoy the life you want in just one year
whyOur entire life can change in one year. Fast forward a year and ask yourself, “Where do I want to be?” We must believe that we have the power to create the life we want.
in Fast Forward: 5 Power Principles to Create the Life You Want in Just One Year, Wendy Leshgold and Lisa McCarthy say we often feel helpless because we are so focused on the present. “We are so caught up in the current situation, so caught up in the story, that we can’t look up or gain perspective.” We can become too focused on what we lack instead of where we want to be.
To move forward, you must take responsibility for what you can control: your actions, your reactions, and your discomfort. To help you on your trip, they offer the following suggestions: Five Power Principles It brings clarity and inner strength to move forward.
Power Principle 1: Declare a bold vision
You need a bold vision that motivates you to take action and go all in. Bold visions are energizing and possible, but they can also be uncomfortable and require growth and change. Past experiences may cause you to focus on what you have to lose and play it safe. “Moments where you play a big role but don’t succeed can dominate your thoughts, and the longer you stay in that situation, the more you become obsessed with what you have rather than what you could have gained.” So start by changing your mindset. “The most inspiring visions are those that are informed but not limited by the past and present.”
Share your vision with the people who can give you the most support.
Because we don't intentionally set our own outlook, we put off happiness because we believe it is tied to a future event or set of circumstances.
We've seen so many relationships change completely because someone believed something different could be possible and took steps to make it a reality. Despite the limiting beliefs running through your head, you have the power to make this change.
Power Principle 2: Choose a New Perspective
You can choose your perspective on everything that happens to you. “Choosing a new perspective is one of the most powerful steps you can take to improve your life now and in the future.” It is important to define for yourself what will change in the way you think, act, and speak as a result of your new perspective. Acknowledge your strengths and quiet your inner critic.
Power Principle 3: Plan your work and do it according to plan.
Be intentional with your time, energy, and focus. “Your reactive behavior can and will get in the way of achieving your vision and creating the life you want.” Identify the areas of your life in which you are reacting.
I have time. You have to use it differently. “Create a 90-day action plan to help you focus on small, actionable, concrete steps to achieve the important outcomes in your vision.” Make a “no” list.
Power Principle 4: Use Action Language
Get out of the stands and onto the field. Use language that moves you forward. Complaining will hinder your progress. “The language of action is direct, specific, and persuasive. It gets people on board with your vision and plan.”
Turn conversations and meetings into opportunities to build relationships, generate results, and make progress by setting desired outcomes in advance. “Ask yourself, ‘After this conversation, what will people believe, how will they feel, and what will they do as a result?’” Think about how you speak and eliminate language that limits your impact. The authors recommend:
Cut Disclaimer: Saying things like “you might already know” may not be the right idea.
Don't apologize: Apologizing when you haven't done anything wrong undermines your credibility and power.
Remove “just”: Adding “just” before saying what we are going to do makes it seem trivial or unimportant, such as “I’m just going to share this data.”
Be concise. Brief is always more powerful.
Tell rather than ask: If you have a recommendation, please make it clear and confident rather than demanding. For example, “Can we set up a time to review the proposal next week?” Instead, “Let’s set up a time next week to review the proposal.”
Use “and” rather than “but”: Replacing “but” with “and” helps you avoid people feeling less empowered and getting defensive. You want them to be open to your ideas and feedback. For example, “I appreciate your insight, but we have a different perspective” and “I appreciate your insight, but we have a different perspective.”
Reduce filler words: Often we fill the spaces and spaces of our thoughts with words and phrases like “to be honest,” “um, “uh,” “like,” “actually,” “sort of,” “sort of,” and “you.” “I know.”, “Yes.” or “By the way.”
Power Principle 5: Stop talking and be curious
Most of the time we listen unconsciously, and it can cost us dearly. This “cuts us off from deeper relationships, ideas that can move us forward, and the benefits of allowing others to think out loud,” all of which help us achieve the results in our vision. can be.”
Pay attention. Don’t let the fact that you already know something or think you should know something hold you back. Listening intentionally and being curious also means moving away from solving other people's problems. Coach instead of solve. “You can empower the people in your life if you resist the temptation to solve their problems and instead guide them through their challenges. Assuming they already have the answers, your job is simply to create the time and space for them to be good, creative, and resourceful.”
Each Power Principle includes exercises to help you work through the thought processes you need to change your life one year from today.
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