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Weddings are notoriously expensive, so it's rare for a bride and groom to be able to afford all the expenses.
In a recent Reddit post shared on the popular “Am I an Idiot?” subreddit, a bride revealed why she needs to replace her maids of honor. The post began by explaining that all of her maids of honor are employed, in their mid-20s, and childless.
The bridesmaid group went dress shopping out of town while the bride paid for two hotel rooms. “My only requirement for the dress was that it had to be a specific blue and not satin. We tried on dresses all afternoon and everyone found something they liked, including my MOH. [maid of honor],” the bride’s Reddit post read. “I heard she picked a $350 dress while most of her other bridesmaids picked dresses in the $100-$150 range.”
However, her maid of honor later complained that one of her other bridesmaids had paid for her dress. She told the bridesmaid that if the bride had specific dress requirements, she should pay for her own dress. The maid of honor also claimed that her bridesmaid had not paid for her dress during her wedding.
“My maid of honor told me I was being very reasonable with my request and that she could buy any dress she wanted within her budget. MOH disagreed and the maid of honor ignored her but later told me about it,” the post continued.
A month later, the maid of honor called her and asked her to pay for the dress. The bride refused because she couldn't afford it, and said that if she paid for her, she would have to pay for all the bridesmaids' dresses. The bride explained, “She said she was the maid of honor and everyone would understand that it was a privilege she had received.”
“I disagreed and our argument got a little heated. Eventually, she told me that if she didn’t get the dress, she couldn’t attend the wedding. I wouldn’t budge on the issue. She hung up,” she wrote.
The maid of honor's mother even intervened in the incident, telling the bride that she was “rude” for not buying the dress. She claimed she “didn't understand what it's like not to have money to buy things.”
After the argument, the woman gave the maid of honor to another bridesmaid, but she still gave the wedding invitation to her former maid of honor. “Some family members are saying I should have just paid for the dress,” she wrote. “I know my former maid of honor is short on money, but I knew she had been attending my wedding for almost two years at this point, so I figured she would set aside money.”
After the post was made, people took to the comments section to defend her decision not to pay for the dress.
“It wouldn't be fair to the other bridesmaids if you were paying for her dress and not theirs. The worst part is you gave all the bridesmaids your criteria for dresses and she picked a $350 dress and the other bridesmaids picked dresses in the $100-$150 range. And she wants you to pay for a $350 dress!” one comment began.
“If she really wanted to attend your wedding, she would have saved $100-$150 over the past two years. Clearly, her wish was to get an expensive dress that she didn't have to pay for. From what her mother says, it sounds like you'd welcome her to your big day, not just as a bridesmaid who doesn't pay for her dress.”
Another commenter agreed, writing: “Sometimes the bride pays for her bridesmaids' dresses. Sometimes she doesn't. MOH knows you don't and you pick a dress that costs twice as much as everyone else and then whine about it being too expensive.”